New guy wondering how to get your wife to let you carve more?

susieq · #11 12-22-2006, 04:10 PM

Hi Jason,
Speaking from a woman's point of view, I am guessing you guys havn't been married a long time..... I am so tickled that my husband has a hobby that keeps him busy. It helps that I have hobbies too. But we have been married 37 years. If she is busy with work, home and kids, she will want some time with you.....and time is short in her schedule.

She probably doesn't have time for a hobby and if someone doesn't have any outside interests, it is hard for them to relate to someone who does. Years ago, my husband had no outside interests and I had too many. He just got aggrivated at me for doing all that stuff.... Now that he has hobbies, he is cool with mine. He does wood working and I carve. We have separate work shops.

There is no easy answer to that problem. Time will probably solve the problem for you. Good luck.
susieq

wood_carver28 · #12 12-22-2006, 04:31 PM

First off welcome! Next to answer your question. I thought about when that happened to me I thought well Im the man of the house so I told her I wear the britches round here and I carved. So there!! This is not telling you to do the same this is what I did you make your on choice and good luck. Hey that idea about money is another good one.

Claude · #13 12-22-2006, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by wood_carver28

First off welcome! Next to answer your question. I thought about when that happened to me I thought well Im the man of the house so I told her I wear the britches round here and I carved. So there!! This is not telling you to do the same this is what I did you make your on choice and good luck. Hey that idea about money is another good one.

I've been happily married 39 years, and one of the first things I learned was NOT to have that sort of "discussion" - I was a Navy officer at the time and gone a lot because of a little political disagreement called the Viet Nam War. So my wife "wore the britches" when I was gone, and we've worked at it being an equal partnership ever since. No disrespect intended - just my mileage did vary...

Claude

wood_carver28 · #14 12-22-2006, 07:15 PM

I appoligize if I affended anyone one I was just speaking of what I did. Everyone is different.

WoodGeezer · #15 12-22-2006, 08:18 PM

Some how as I got closer to the age where I could take early retirement, my wife came up with the idea that I needed a hobby. Then she thought that maybe we could make a little money doing it.
Then it was just a matter of saying "Oh honey, I could do a lot more if I just had this tool (or took this class).
I've given away much more than I've sold, but she is still with the program.

She has been great about it. And I have gotten her to take some classes in jewlrey making. (Maybe we could make a little money)

Just make sure to clean up after yourself

WoodGeezer

Nancy_G · #16 12-22-2006, 09:25 PM

Hi Jason -- I have no advice. I'm a woman married to a man who thinks I should be cleaning and cooking instead of carving

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BTW -- I live just a few miles west of you, over in Franklin County.

Claude · #17 12-23-2006, 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by wood_carver28

I appoligize if I affended anyone one I was just speaking of what I did. Everyone is different.

Absolutely, everyone is different, and I wasn't offended. Just pointing out that my wife might take a 2 x 4 up alongside my head if I got too "uppity".

I mentioned we share: I like to cook, and she doesn't, so I cook, she cleans up, and we're both happy. Here's something for anyone whether you can cook or not:

http://mywebpages.comcast.net/freane...Crazy_Cake.rtf

Claude

Hi_Ho_Sliver · #18 12-23-2006, 09:29 AM

Well I thank God I married a lady that would put up with me no matter what I do! I want to carve, thats fine with her, in fact she has carved some beautiful birds but lately arthritis in her hand and wrist won't allow her to hold the wood and carve much anymore...and thats a shame! Humm maybe if I am out in the shop carving, I am out of her hair? LOL "That's It!"

Shoelastmaker · #19 12-23-2006, 03:52 PM

Thank you all for the advice,I think I have to many hobbies.I am quitting the band I have been playing with for 13 years.Not because of my wife ,but when i was in my early twenties I liked that lifestyle.It paid good and you got to party.I've got it all now,career,wife and kids.Again thanks for the advice.I love coming to this board.It inspires me,everytime i come on here i pick up my tools and start carving something.
Talk to ya later,

Jason

whitecree · #20 12-24-2006, 12:29 PM

Just don't vanish on us like so many others do. Really want to see some of your work.

The way I got around this restriction was I'd first buy milady wife something nice. Then she could hardly argue if I bought myself a (relatively) inexpensive tool.

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Originally Posted by wood_carver28

I thought about when that happened to me I thought well Im the man of the house so I told her I wear the britches round here and I carved. So there!!

I do the same thing, only I add on at the end "and I have my wife's permission to say so!"